This week's Thursday's thought is about the belief of being enough.
I recently attended an audience with Marisa Peer and as a therapist she explains that really we all have the same underlying core beliefs, and one of them being a limiting belief of ‘I am not enough’. This belief is something that we've heard or interpreted from a very young age and then throughout our lives we've continued to see the evidence that reinforces what we already believe.
The thing with thoughts is we think every thought that comes into mind is true, we don't tend to actually question is this true or not. And as a result we see the evidence that does support it and we tend to filter out the evidence that is to the contrary.
This is something I look at very commonly with my clients in my practice because when you start delving into where something came from or the evidence surrounding the belief, there's often plenty of evidence to say it's not true and actually identify this isn't it a helpful belief.
In which case we need to think about why would I believe that thought and live my life accordingly?
So the great news is we don't have to believe our thoughts and we can question them. The first thing you can do is to just observe our thoughts, be the observer and question is this a helpful thought? Is this not a helpful thought? Specifically around the idea of ‘I am not enough’.
Identify where you have that thought. Is it a specific occasion that you that you think it and you beat yourself up?
Next look at changing it, so let ‘I am not enough’ to become ‘I am enough’, or it might be something like ‘I am not good enough at speaking in public’ and you could look to change that to ‘I am good enough speaking in public’.
If your mind doesn't quite accept the extreme opposite it could be something like ‘I am becoming more confident at speaking in public, I am learning to, I'm allowing myself’ because those words can't be questioned in the same way by our mind as if you just say the extreme opposite, sometimes it says well that's just not true.
That's my Thursday's thought really, where do you not say your enough? Where can you start to believe that you are enough and start to change those negative words?
The more you tell yourself you are enough, the more you will also believe it.
Marisa Peer suggests putting positive phrases everywhere, writing it on your mirror, having it as your screensaver, having it around the house, whatever, because the more you reinforce that belief the more that will become familiar and our minds love what is familiar.
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